Suzanne Finnamore Quotes That Will Inspire You to Live Your Best Life

1. Delusion detests focus and romance provides the veil. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

2. My mother is a firm believer in the long pause, useful in interrogations, proclamations of truth, and the occasional cutting dead of someone without their knowing it. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

3. Although I notice there is never a truly good time to have a nice long chat with one´s mother-in-law, unless you are having an extraordinary life and marriage and your mother-in-law is, say, Maureen Dowd, or Indira Gandhi. Someone of that ilk. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

4. For me, it´s sloth," I say. "Hedonistic sloth and escapism. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

5. God is great and God is good," Lisa says. "But where are the Apache attack helicopters when you need them? Split: A Memoir of Divorce

6. He announces that lately he keeps losing things. "Like your wife and child," I want to say, but don´t. At fourty, I´ve learned not to say everything clever, not to score every point. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

7. How can I grieve what is still in motion?" I ask her. "Shoes are still dropping all over the place. I´m not kidding," I say. "It´s Normandy out there. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

8. I am replete with stamina in finding out every single fact I can about this whole affair.Yet, I think, do I want to pull that thread? Do I want to unleash the truth, unravel deceit, and kill reality as I´ve known it? It is irreparable, if I do, from the moment we met until now. It is long. If I discover too much that is false about what I thought my past was, Time will be skewed even further. I already have a poor connection with the present. Example: I have no sense of what day it is. It´s better. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

9. I feel incendiary, a wildfire. My spirit licks at the gates of a very elaborate, customized, and distracting emotional Hades. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

10. I know my vision is impaired and cannot be trusted with even the simplest tasks, much less dating. Not that I´ve come within talon distance of a man. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

11. I review what I know once again, confronting the monolith now alien and almost unconnected to me: my marriage. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

12. I saw my reflection in their eyes, but not the men themselves, not clearly. This preserved the idea that all intelligent and even vaguely attractive men were essentially good. Delusion detest focus and romance provides the veil. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

13. I used to loathe ambivalence; now I adore it. Ambivalence is my new best friend. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

14. I´m just not sending out the right vibe lately. Perhaps the fact that I wear stained sweatpants and free T-shirts is holding me back. I just can´t seem to get back into the intelligent-slut-for-hire outfits that lure men; even shoes with laces evade me. Plus my hair is Fran Lebowitz-esque. I think my eyes are getting closer together. I don´t know. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

15. I´ve blown it, the whole grisly charade. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

16. It had all seemed as inevitable as sunset. Instead it was the beauty of the sun glinting upon the scythe. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

17. Naturally, I do blame Françoise. I blame her for having N in the first place. She was young, she was beautiful, she was married to a doctor, and she was intelligent. She could have abstained from producing her first son. It was wrong on a variety of levels. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

18. So many events and moments that seemed insignificant add up. I remember how for the last Valentine´s Day, N gave flowers but no card. In restaurants, he looked off into the middle distance while my hand would creep across the table to hold his. He would always let go first. I realize I can´t remember his last spontaneous gesture of affection. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

19. Someday I will have revenge. I know in advance to keep this to myself, and everyone will be happier. I do understand that I am expected to forgive N and his girlfriend in a timely fashion, and move on to a life of vegetarian cooking and difficult yoga positions and self-realization, and make this so much easier and more pleasant for all concerned. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

20. Surprises, I feel now, are primarily a form of violence. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

21. Take me now, God!" I shout to the inky sky. "I´m ready.""You´re not ready. You´re not even divorced yet," Bunny says. "You cannot die married to that man. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

22. The snag about marriage is, it isn´t worth the divorce. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

23. They feel life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever decide to have my soul surgically removed. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

24. This does not escape my notice, it is a context. I resent the fact of a context; my social status has shifted and no one is going to acknowldege it, that´s certain. I´m expected to be Brave and Rise Above. I dress for the role; I must look far better now that I did when I was married. I must look pulled together into a nice tight Hermès knot of self-containment. I don´t make the rules; I just do my best to follow them. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

25. To keep myself from harming or calling N and to stave off the rage and despair, I focus on my extraordinary son, drink midrange Chardonnay every night after he is asleep, and make a barrage of late-night mail-order retail purchases placed from the couch. The couch has officially become my second battle station. I am angry and I have credit And I´m all blackened inside; I should wear a pointy witch hat around Larkspur as I go to the bank and drop A off at day care. It would be more honest. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

26. Très, très, triste... Split: A Memoir of Divorce

27. Yes. THANK YOU. And say hello to Judas Iscariot. Split: A Memoir of Divorce

28. You get what you give," we will tell his sorry, selfish ass." The Betty Lady has spoken. I detect a Bronx accent."But," I demur, "it will make the other woman say, ´See? She IS a jealous and paranoid and pushy wife.´"The Betty Lady rips open a cell phone statement with a nail file and, without looking up at me, says, "Let me tell you something, honey. In my experience? The only thing they care about is what they see in the mirror each morning and WINNING...or their perception of winning. Split: A Memoir of Divorce