1. The purpose of a relationship is to reflect to all the others in the relationship what they need to understand to become more of themselves.Everyone in a relationship is in a relationship for the purpose of helping the other people in the relationship, giving them opportunities to learn to be who they are more and more.
2. When you feel the emotional reaction of someone's supposed [verbal] attack, what you're doing is getting them to reflect to you that some portion of yourself feels that way about yourself. Otherwise you wouldn't react. You would just observe it - "oh interesting." - and move on with your day. But if you react to it, it's showing you some part of you actually is buying into this as true.So say: "Well thank you: Thank you for showing that I was not loving all of myself."And when you really start doing that, then you may start to see that someone else's attitude toward you may change.
